Is it wrong to pray for patience, and what does the bible say about dating people from different denominations or different races?

Is it wrong to pray for patience?

The Bible instructs us to “Pray without ceasing” (1Thessalonians 5:17).  It doesn’t instruct us in this verse as to what we are to pray for, only that we are to pray.  James tells us in Chapter 1 & Verse 2 of His book that “The trying of your faith worketh patience”.  Basically James is telling us that patience will come or develop from tough times.  It’s when we are lowest in our life that it’s easiest to learn patience.  As to address your question the Bible doesn’t say not to pray for patience.  It only tells us patience comes from hard times.  If you pray for patience, it won’t be easy.  Hard times will come.  However, remember what Paul told us Jesus said in Hebrews 13:5 – “I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.”  Even in the hard times, God will guide you though, so always lean on Him.

Dating amongst different denominations?

To begin, the Bible never addresses different denominations.  Denominations developed as a result of people’s poor understanding of the Word of God.  Therefore, a Biblical verse pertaining to dating between denominations will not be found.  However the Bible does instruct us as to what a marriage should be:

  1. It is only between 1 man and 1 woman (Gen 1:24)
  2. Christians are only supposed to marry Christians (2 Cor 6:14)

When Paul gave the analogy of “be ye not unequally yoked”, he was referencing back to the Old Testament when God’s people were told to not yoke an oxen and a donkey together, because they aren’t equal animals.  The reason to put animals in a yoke was so that the load that was being pulled would be equally distributed and be easier to pull.

Nowadays, even if two people are Christians, that doesn’t necessarily mean that they are equally yoked.  While they may both believe that Jesus died and rose again, one may believe in once saved always saved, and one may believe that salvation can be lost.  If you and the person you are dating believe different things, then it will be very hard to pull the load together.  Again, the point of a yoke is to make the load easier to pull, but if the two in the yoke are pulling opposite directions, then the load won’t go anywhere.  The bottom line is that we should be able to serve God better with our spouse than apart.  If that’s not the case, then that isn’t the right person to marry.  Your spouse should believe what you believe about the Bible so you can faithfully pull a heavy load together.


What does the Bible say about interracial marriages?

For this question please refer to our older entries under the question “What does the Bible say about interracial marriages”.

We hope and pray that this has given you guidance through God’s Word.  If you have any other questions please ask away.